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The woman sulking after she couldn't integrate with the group
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| (26F) left a hangout early because I felt out of place. Was I wrong?
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The party from the introspective friend's point of view
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I’ve had many introverted friends, and I, as an extrovert, with time, have gotten to understand what kind of things might upset them, but it was, most definitely, something I didn’t naturally know. For example, for me, bringing somebody to a hangout where I’m meeting another friend, especially if the hangout involves other people, like this one (that apparently had other groups of people that the extrovert friend knew), would be totally normal and even fun. When I go to a bar or to a party, even if I go with a friend, I’m going to go and talk to people on my own, and I expect my friend to be able to integrate by herself, whether she knows people beforehand or not, just like I’d do if I’m invited to some acquaintance’s birthday party or whatever. People are not obligated to include you in conversation; you have to find a way to include yourself. That can be easy with some groups, and hard with others, but it’s never a personal affront.
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The other woman calling her friend to let her know she feels guilty about what happened
Subject is a model.
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It’s totally okay to leave a party early if you didn’t find a way to integrate into the group; it happens to everyone, even the most extroverted of us. What I don’t think is entirely okay is making that a huge fight with a friend. You can politely state that you prefer one-on-ones, or that she lets you know when she is bringing an extra friend, because she probably didn’t know it was going to be so difficult for you, and that’s it. I think I’m the only one who thinks like this, though…
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